Serenity's Premarital Program
Marriage is a HUGE step and relationships change after marriage and over time. For those who want a comprehensive review of what it will take to make your marriage the way you dream of, our program has been designed with you in mind. Each phase of the program can be excluded by clients request for those who believe they will not need that aspect. This allow for a timely and customized approach to your marriage program. The full program is twelve sessions. Sessions are typically an hour depending on topics covered and client history.
In part one of this program we will provide you and your partner with many written assessments. These assessments will look at where the two of you are in agreement and may uncover some areas where you don’t agree or did not even think to ask about. Examples would be on issues of faith, money, child rearing, unemployment, communication skills, sexual history, and personal past issues.
Some example questions might be:
How much time will you spend with the family vs your spouse and how will you rotate holidays among your two with families?
What is your role as a spouse (don't confuse with responsibilities like working, home chores and providing food)?
What rituals do you have to make up after a argument?
Will you raise the kids to go to church and what church and how offten will they attend?
Who is going to be responsible for home chores such as laundry, taking out the trash, dusting, mopping, yard work?
How are you going to split or combine your checks and bank accounts and just who will be responsible for paying shared bills like rent and unities?
Do you think emotional cheating is as bad a phsycial cheating and will an affair on anyones part consitute a divorce?
Everything is up for review and discussion to help ensure that the two of you are on the same page across important marriage issues. After you should feel like you have learned a thing or two and with a deeper understanding of who your partner is and what it will be like being married to them. Typically lasts between 2-3 sessions.
In part two of the program we review basic communication skills and conflict resolution skills that are often needed in healthy functioning marriages. After we will act out common marital conflicts and resolve them using the learned skills. We then review bestselling author Dr. Gary Chapman's work on the 5 Love Languages ending with fun homework tasks for couples. Typically lasts 1-2 sessions.
Part hree of the program is optional. We review the very popular Scream Free Marriage/Parenting program used in civilian and military populations world wide. Emphasis is on key concepts and attitudes needed for each partner to succeed in the marriage. This is done by a ScreamFree Certified therapist. Each program lasts approximately 4 hours. Total session time will be about 5 sessions.
In your last session we look at each partner individually and as a pair and fine tune thoughts and behaviors by teaching basic cognitive behavioral skill help create a happy home. Typically this means having a discussion about what each person wants in the day to day experience of their marriage and uncovering unspoken rules and what it will take to fulfill those desires.
The course concludes with a certificate of completion from Serenity and a special customized gift for the engaged couple.